・“ One Habit,” which is also the title of the book, is having fun (p10) The truth in this world is that a happy and enjoyable life comes to people who choose fun (p11) You can't beat “enjoy” by working hard (p34)
・What you can get from this book is 1) explain why “having fun” works well and its fundamental principles, 2) know practical methods and be able to test them right away, and 3) bring out your own talents and potential to the fullest (p15)
・“ Intrinsic motivation” based on fun and interest in the activity itself is more sustainable and easier to achieve results than “extrinsic motivation” to avoid rewards or punishments obtained as a result of the activity (p29)
・Even if you fail, there is definitely a “joy in life” that can only be obtained if you don't take it seriously, learn from it, try it out seriously, and don't worry about other people's eyes (p32)
・Specific tips for having fun are 1) consciously searching for fun, 2) changing from being forced to “want to do it,” and 3) accumulating small successful experiences (p37)
・The merits of going with one's own values are 1) making decisions clear, 2) generating energy, 3) making it easier to overcome difficulties (p49) tips for making use of values in everyday life are 1) letting go of things that don't match your values, 2) conveying values to people around you, 3) regularly reviewing values (p61) showing your values in the “points you respect” of people you respect (p61)
・As points to develop intrinsic motivation, 1) autonomy (choose your own choices), put your purpose into your own words, 2) sense of competence, challenge slightly difficult things, give feedback on growth, 3) have relationships, have friends to challenge together, and connect with people who support you (p73)
・As a way to change from gasoline of fear to “gasoline to enjoy,” 1) reperceive failure as learning, 2) enjoy work like a game, and 3) share joy with friends (p88)
・When you write down things you don't want to do and start thinking about ways to avoid them, your life becomes surprisingly light (p98)
・If there is no merit to getting angry, how should you act? The answer is “to behave cheerfully,” ensure psychological safety, have good relationships, and reduce stress (p119)
・The effects of high-quality relationships are 1) lowering the risk of illness, 2) delaying brain deterioration, 3) extending longevity A high quality human relationship means that there are even a few people who can forgive their heart and talk about anything, and this has the greatest impact on happiness (p128) it is important to participate in communities other than the workplace and socialize with people without interests (p129)
・You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, and our consciousness and behavior, and even our happiness and success are greatly influenced by relationships (p136)
・3 approaches to bring out the other person's positive side, 1) have a viewpoint of finding the other person's strengths, 2) use words that approve of the other person, and 3) use yourself as an example (p148)
・When you write down things you don't want to do and start thinking about ways to avoid them, your life becomes surprisingly light (p98)
・If there is no merit to getting angry, how should you act? The answer is “to behave cheerfully,” ensure psychological safety, have good relationships, and reduce stress (p119)
・The effects of high-quality relationships are 1) lowering the risk of illness, 2) delaying brain deterioration, 3) extending longevity A high quality human relationship means that there are even a few people who can forgive their heart and talk about anything, and this has the greatest impact on happiness (p128) it is important to participate in communities other than the workplace and socialize with people without interests (p129)
・You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with, and our consciousness and behavior, and even our happiness and success are greatly influenced by relationships (p136)
・3 approaches to bring out the other person's positive side, 1) have a viewpoint of finding the other person's strengths, 2) use words that approve of the other person, and 3) use yourself as an example (p148)
・It's quite difficult to change yourself, but by changing the environment, you can forcibly change yourself (p162) You can't change past events, but you can change the “meaning” of past events, and you can freely choose the meaning that event gave you even now (p196)
・To choose a way to live without regrets, 1) don't put off what you can do now, 2) share time with people you really care about, and 3) value what you want to do (p215)